Don Roulo is the CEO (Chief Encouragement Officer) of Life Quest. He is a life, career and business coach as well as a Certified 48 Days Workshop Facilitator. He travels nationally and internationally to conduct business and career training as well as marriage and family workshops.

By DON ROULO

I just received an email blog from my friend, Kent Julian. Kent is a nationally renowned speaker, author and coach. Though I have been speaking for over 20 years, I consider Kent my speaking coach and more importantly a friend.

As a matter of full disclosure I am going to share 21 things Kent said you should never say. The list comes from Kent’s blog at liveitforward.com. However, the thoughts I share are mine. Thanks Kent for a great reminder of how to insure our personal and professional success!

If you are a regular reader of the column, you know I have shared several times the way we get results in our life always follows the same pattern. Thoughts become words …words become actions … and actions get results. Today, I am focusing on words – specifically YOUR words.

There is an old cliché that says sticks and stone can break my bones, but words can never hurt. That is a huge lie! Words are extremely powerful. We can see the affects words have on both children and adults. Words either construct or destruct – they either build or tear down.

We most often see the power of words on someone’s self worth. You may think words only affect children, but words others say about you still have power in your life. Think of the good mentors and bosses you have had. Think of their encouraging words which have helped you get you where you are today. Think of the not so good bosses you have had and how some of those words still affect you today.

The words other speak about and to us have amazing power. However, the most powerful words ever spoken are the ones we speak out of our own mouths about our own lives. We are either constructing or destructing the life we want to achieve.

I am sharing Kent’s list of 21 things to never say. I also thought saying the opposite words can turn things around, so I am also sharing my list of 21 things you should say about yourself.

• That’s not part of my job description.

• I do whatever it takes to get the job done.

• Setting goals isn’t important.

• Setting goals IS important.

• I can’t.

• I can!

• Life’s not fair.

• Life is full of opportunities.

• Why does it have to be so hard?

• It may be hard, but it is always worth it.

•I don’t have a choice.

• I always have choices.

• I’m not ____________________ enough.

• I AM________________ enough.

• I don’t need any help.

• I need the help of others to succeed.

• It’s best to just fit in.

• It is best to be who I really am.

• I’m not good at anything!

• I am good at everything.

• Who I spend time with isn’t important.

• Who I spend time with IS important.

• Whatever!  

• I care.

• I can’t help it.

• I always exercise self-control.

• I can’t change my attitude.

• I am the only one who can control my attitude.

• I can’t control my actions.

• I can always control my actions.

• I’m too busy to read.

• I am a leader, therefore I am a reader.

• I’m afraid to fail.

• I give myself permission to fail.

• What’s the use?

• I will never give up.

• That’s impossible! It can’t be done!!

• Everything is possible and I can do it!

• That will take too much work.

• Work is a gift.

• I’m just unlucky.

• Luck has nothing to do with my success.

Did you find yourself saying some or all of the things you should never say? Let me suggest you do something radical. For the next 60 days, read out loud the 21 things you should say. I know if you do this, you will feel and experience more success in your personal and professional life. Clear here to download a PDF of the 21 Things You Should Say About Yourself!

About the Author

Don Roulo is a life, career and business coach as well as a Certified 48 Days Workshop Facilitator. He travels nationally and internationally to conduct business and career training as well as marriage and family workshops.

As a business consultant, he has written business plans and worked to market products or services as well as organizing financial statements for investors. Because of his success in the sales and business arena, Don has been blessed with the opportunity to train, motivate and inspire others. His passion is to motivate and equip people to find their passion and achieve their goals and God given destiny.